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THE LOW-WHINE DIET

Many people habitually complain to their partner - its time to break that habit and become more constructive about your relationship. The object of this exercise is to teach you how to cultivate a deeper appreciation of your loved one. Don't worry whether he or
she appreciates you enough
- just focus on your own unfolding sense of appreciation.

One
Observing the Low-Whine Diet entails refraining from criticizing your partner to his or her face, or to anyone else, for a week. You should both go on the diet at the same time, so pick a week together.

Two
Establish a set of guidelines together - for example, you could include banning jokey put-downs and sarcasm. Name-calling, even in jest, is definitely out!

Three
Notice when negative thoughts about your partner enter your mind, and silence them. A good way to do this is to think: "My partner may be difficult at times but he or she is also...", adding in a quality that you can appreciate. Now focus on that positive quality.

Four
Each day, pay your partner a compliment or praise him or her in some way. (But make sure your comment is true and heartfelt, otherwise it will have no power.)

Five
Look out for any small things that your partner does for you and express your appreciation for them. Make a point of thanking him or her, and give them a hug.

Six
After the week has finished, compare notes with your partner and analyse how your levels of appreciation for each other have changed. You should find that by always focusing on the good points, your appreciation of one another has increased and that you have re-learned to notice what is special about your partner and your union.

 

 

   
 

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